Rules To Being Human
Topic: Rules

 Rules To Being Human

YOU WILL RECEIVE A BODY...
You may like it or hate it,
but it will be yours for the entire period you're around.

YOU WILL LEARN LESSONS...
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called life.
Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant and stupid.

THERE ARE NO MISTAKES, ONLY LESSONS...
Growth is a process of trial and error, experimentation.
The "Failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately "works".

A LESSON IS REPEATED UNTIL LEARNED...
A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can then go on to the next lesson.

LEARNING LESSONS DOES NOT END...
There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons.
If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

"THERE" IS NO BETTER THAN "HERE"...
When your "There" has become a "Here", you will simply obtain
another "There" that will, again, look better than "Here".

OTHERS ARE MERELY MIRRORS OF YOU...
You cannot love or hate something about another person unless
it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

WHAT YOU MAKE OF YOUR LIFE IS UP TO YOU...
You have all the tools and resources you need.
What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

YOUR ANSWERS LIE INSIDE YOU...
The answers to life's questions lie inside you.
All you need to do is look, listen and trust.

YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS...
Unless you consistently stay focused on the goals you have set for yourself, everything you've just read won't mean a thing.

Marriage Tips
Topic: Marriage

Be B-E-S-T  F-R-I-E-N-D-S.
Marry your best friend and work to stay best friends. Best friends have lots in common and like to do many similar things. Yes, you can have separate hobbies, but make sure there's a common ground of many shared hobbies, likes, dislikes and experiences. Don't be like ships passing the night.

You must have shared goals and dreams.
Life is so much easier if you're going in the same direction. Have you ever made a "Life's Plan" together? It's like mapping out a road trip, except the hotel turns out to be your house and there's no room service. We did this when we were engaged in 1980 and have just about accomplished every goal from a list of about 25 to 30 life goals.

Never go to bed mad at each other.
It's a cliche, but it's true. Harboring resentments against your spouse is like cutting off your own nose to spite your face.

Say "I love you" everyday.
Try to find something positive about your spouse, instead of harping on bad traits. Say "I love you" everyday. What's the first thing people say when they lose a loved one? "I wish I could have told him that I loved him one last time."

Communication:
Work really hard at understanding each other. Men are not as good as women at verbalizing what is going on with themselves emotionally. Women need to work a little harder at deciphering what men really mean when they're upset. For instance, if you're husband is flipping out because he can't find the remote control and it seems excessive, it usually means there is something else going on, like a problem at work and then you have to pry out of them what the REAL problem is. But other times, they are just flipping out because they can't find the remote.  ;)

Two halves do not become a "whole".
Regular mathematics do NOT apply in marriage. Two halves do not become a "whole". Two wholes become a whole. It only works when 100% of you gives 100% to him/her. If you're giving 50%, you're only giving half of yourself.  It's like that 'new math 'you don't understand... That, and 1 + 1 = 5.

Give each other space to each do your own thing. Really!

Jealousy has no place in a marriage. It was fun while you're a teenager, but it's time to grow up!

Trust, Trust, Trust!   Figure out if you trust the other person before you tie the knot. This is VERY IMPORTANT!!! Adult People DO NOT CHANGE. If you find your partner lies, steals, cheats and hides information before marriage, you can bet your last dime they'll do it after marriage, too.  If your new spouse is someone who cheated with you on a previous girlfriend or ex-wife, guess what? You're next.

Just like the old saying goes:
"A man who marries his mistress creates a vacancy in the position"

Make time to go out without the kids.
For sanity's sake!!!  (We have 3 kids.)

Laugh a lot! Humor goes a long way.

When you're having a bad hair day, try to remember "why" you are together. Remember back to when you fell in love. We never forget that, do we? Swoon!!

Don't Nag!
Nobody likes a nag. Nag is a bad word, it rhymes with Hag, Rag and Bag.

To Men - Old saying:
"The best thing you can do for your children is to love their mother."

Teamwork:
Raising children takes total teamwork. Especially if they out number you! We have 4 hands between us, our kids together have 6... It's a juggling game. Especially when they are young and you're out in public.

People don't change.
Don't waste precious years with the mistaken belief that you can "change" or "save" anyone. You can't change anyone. Deal with that now. How easy is it to change bad habits you don't like about yourself? The best you can do is live and be that example you want wish for them to be.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
MUTUAL Respect. Where's Aretha when you need her?

Keep relationship problems private, the world does not need to know. Trashing your partner to others is a reflection of who you are. After all, you chose em'!

Getting married is easy. It's fun, it's a big party!
Staying married.....now that's another matter!

Selfishness has no place in marriage. Marriage means "one" & "union". There will be days when you get what you want and there will be days that you won't.  

Patience takes years to learn. Especially with all the stresses of living in our times. Being married and raising a family takes an enormous amount of energy. The first two years are critical and most marriages breakup during in this period. Young couples haven't yet figured out how to share themselves and be accountable to other people.

Life is best enjoyed in the present, lived moment by moment, day by day. Compromise, Give and Take, Ebb and Flow.  Some days are horrible and irritating, some are beautiful and nearly perfect, some eventful, uneventful. If today wasn't so hot, look forward to tomorrow. Everything looks different the next day. Don't make your lives a 'tug of war'. Learn to live your lives in step with each other. And be sure to find the fun and mirth and joy and laughter.   

After all, it's your life, you might as well enjoy it!!!

Special Thanks to Robins Web for these tips 

http://www.robinsweb.com/ 

I've Learned
I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in.

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people are just assholes.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better have a big weenie or huge boobs.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to others ~ they are more screwed up than you think.

I've learned that you can keep puking long after you think you're finished.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, unless we are celebrities, politicians or rap stars.

I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades, and there had better be a lot of money to take its place.

I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones who do.

I've learned we don't have to ditch bad friends, because their dysfunction makes us feel better about ourselves.

I've learned that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get arrested and end up in the local paper.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon and all the less important ones just never go away.

Golden Rules For Living
Topic: Rules
If you open it, close it.
If you turn it on, turn it off.
If you unlock it, lock it up.
If you break it, admit it.
If you can't fix it, call in someone who can.
If you borrow it, return it.
If you value it, take care of it.
If you make a mess clean it up.
If you move it, put it back.
If it belongs to someone else and you want to use it, get permission.
If you don't know how to operate it, leave it alone.
If it's none of your business, don't ask questions.
If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
If it will brighten someone's day, say it.
If it will tarnish someone's reputation, keep it to yourself.

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LESSONS FROM A DOG
Topic: Lessons


1. Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joy ride.
2. Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.
3. When loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
4. When it's in your best interest, always practice obedience.
5. Enjoy it when someone wants to rub your tummy.
6. Take naps and always stretch before rising.
7. Run, romp, and play daily.
8. Eat with gusto and enthusiasm.
9. Be loyal.
10. Never pretend to be something you're not.
11. If what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.
12. When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently.
13. Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.
14. Thrive on attention and let people touch you.
15. Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.
16. On hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.
17. When you are happy, dance around and wag your entire body.
18. No matter how often you are criticized, don't buy into the guilt thing and pout.
Run right back and make friends.